The Concept of Composure

In my last newsletter, I promise to unpack each of the six elements of Resilience I consider crucial to being able to advance despite adversity.

Another really important element of Resilience is the concept of Composure. By that, I mean being able to recognise, name, and own our emotional response to what is happening to us and around us.

Self-awareness is a necessary first step to being able to know when we are triggered. Our emotions are signals of our response to what is going on for us. They are not good or bad, they just are. We don't need to ignore them, feel ashamed of them or deny them. They are a message to us and to others around us.

So, we don't deny them, but we need to be skilled to be able to control them, rather than let them control us. This emotional regulation is the bedrock of Composure.

So, the questions to ask yourself are

"Am I in control of my emotions?"

"Do I react quickly or do I respond in a considered way?" "Do my emotions affect others around me?"

I can help with this.